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How to stop hiding and become more useful to others

It’s been a while since I have been here to write. But, I figured that I would come in and do this today in order to really get the things that are o my mind out of it.

My aim here is to share how and why I decided to stop hiding and start sharing in order to be more useful and helpful to others.

The inception

It all started with a night of queuing up podcast episodes. Mostly from the Tim Ferriss show.

It seems that when I decided to pick out the things that I was going to listen to on Sunday night, I did not know quite what to expect. It turns out that what ended up happening was that I was able to find something of a direction.


My anger and my f-this moment

This direction came, first from the anger that I was feeling. You see to give you some context, in a span of 48 hours, maybe less, there were 2 incidents of police officers shooting unarmed black men on camera. Now this is not something I was totally identified with and it was not the root of my anger. At least not solely.

What I found was that the response that people were having were very informed by the media and there were very polarized. Very black or white. And this upset me because people don’t think.

In short, if I wanted to get up and move my family away from all these crazy people, I couldn’t afford to.

Of course that being outside of myself I had to really sit and ponder what it is that was upsetting me then. As it turns out it was the fact that I was at the mercy of this. I was location bound and I was stuck on this idea that I could not really get up and move if I wanted to or at least it would be very difficult for me to and that upset me because I have all the pieces that I need.

I have all that it takes for me to get out there and make my own thing and to blaze my own trail. I think through things. I don’t know if it’s possible that there is something that you have to wonder about here as far as how one would go about making sure that they can move if they want to change their environment but it turns out that I was upset about my inability to structure and environment that allows me to execute and ship on my ideas.

So now I am determined to do just that. I’m going to do it while learning in public.

I had show my sister some of my writing, I think and I write a lot, and I was wondering what I could do with it and she basically said, or at least I interpreted what she said to be that my writing were journals and were not fit for publication. Not to the public and not in its raw form.

For some reason, I disagree.

I believe that my raw thoughts, as long as I am thinking deeper than the first layer of noise, are worth sharing. Even if to let another person that is feeling the same way know that they are not alone.

So I go back to it to say that these are just my thoughts and I will filter a bit but these posts are something like my morning pages.

To my resolution.

I had for the longest time in my life wanted to set up a lifestyle business or I have wanted to set up things to help people, build schools, release little projects and what have you but I have not done it. And the reason is because I am uncomfortable in the spotlight.

I want to be recognized but I still want to hide in the shadows. I want to remain silent but I still want to be heard. I want to stay in my bubble yet I want to help so many people.

Of course, I know that these things are not possible to do. So it so happened that when I listened to all those podcast episodes that I had queued up for myself, I found one with Derek Sivers and Tim Ferris.

And towards the very end of a two-hour session, there was an exchange with Tim and Derek where Derek talked about these directives that he had distilled on how to be useful to others.

And the very first one is to become famous by doing things in public for the public.

So I write, a lot. And I’m still learning to write. But more importantly I think a lot and to the extent that most people might not light to sit and think or might not have the routines and practice for it, I will share these thoughts. These journals as my sister would call them because I believe that might help someone out. Either be making them feel as if they are not alone, pointing them to some new piece of information that I found, or whatever.

But I’m going to follow directive one: To do things in public. I will learn in public and become a better writer in public. I hope.

If you find this useful or helpful, let me know. If not, let me know as well.

Actionable steps:

Check out the Tim Ferris Show episode with Derek Sivers on his podcast. I would definitely recommend it for people that believe in designing their own lives.

Also, take some time to consider what directives you live by and how they are serving you and others.

I will be speaking more on these directives and how it goes as I try to apply them to my life.

Oh, and to answer the headline

How do you stop hiding and start becoming useful to others?

You just do it. You expose yourself by picking one thing that you are good at, or are interested in, or have thoughts on. You find a way to share that with the public. No matter how small it is in the beginning or how uncomfortable it may feel.

Do it with the intent of being useful and helpful and as long as you keep showing up, you will figure it out.

This is mine. What will yours be?

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